Help! I’m A Worrywart!
Don’t worry, be happy! Easier said than done. Yes, that’s what I am… I have to check everything twice before leaving the house, sometimes I have to turn back home to check something that I forgot to check if no one is home. I worry too much. It gets worst especially when it comes to my significant other … whenever he goes out with his friends and goes home or where ever they’re staying then at the wee hour of the morning, I’ll worry … as long as he’s still out there hanging out with his friends, I’ll never be able to sleep..
It’s not that I worry about him goofing around with other woman, it’s the journey that worries me the most … I worry that he’d get hurt somewhere, i.e. road accidents *touch wood*. I can only sleep when he’s back at his place safely. This is not healthy for us. I know. But I don’t know how NOT to worry. He’ll get annoyed with me too when I keep bugging him to ask of his whereabouts and when he’ll be back. It does sound as if I don’t trust him doesn’t it? Good Lord, that’s not something that I want him to think!
He doesn’t drink alcoholic beverages, he doesnt’ smoke and he doesn’t drive like a maniac. Why do I worry so much? That’s something that I can’t figure out, something that he cannot understand why either. He doesn’t go out that late much either, only once in a while - a sort of small get together with his friends that comes home or visiting for a short period of time. But when this happen, you know the drill.. it will last till late night or early morning. I do that sometimes too, but he’s always okay with it. He doesn’t worry like I do. I feel that I’m such a spoilsport with my constant worries. I, too, want him to go out and have fun with his friends like he wants me to. But I don’t want to go around telling him that he must be back by a certain time just because I worry… I’m not a control queen, I’m just a worrywart!
I keep telling myself not to worry so much… but I still do… With my quite high blood pressure (last Monday it read 150/90), it’s definitely not good for me. With the lack of sleep and worrying, I can feel the blood coursing through my veins, it hurts. It comes to the point that I wish I have access to sleeping pills to help me sleep…. now that’s a sign that I need help! I’m sure there’s someone out there who’s just crazy with worry like I do… how do you handle your worries without ending up at a pyschologist’s office?
This is why I love the following song so much, to help me in situation like these. Sometimes it does, most of the time it doesn’t… so help me please…
Don’t Worry, Be Happy - Bobby McFerrin
Here is a little song I wrote
You might want to sing it note for note
Don’t worry be happy
In every life we have some trouble
When you worry you make it double
Don’t worry, be happy……
Ain’t got no place to lay your head
Somebody came and took your bed
Don’t worry, be happy
The land lord say your rent is late
He may have to litigate
Don’t worry, be happy
Lood at me I am happy
Don’t worry, be happy
Here I give you my phone number
When you worry call me
I make you happy
Don’t worry, be happy
Ain’t got no cash, ain’t got no style
Ain’t got not girl to make you smile
But don’t worry be happy
Cause when you worry
Your face will frown
And that will bring everybody down
So don’t worry, be happy (now
There is this little song I wrote
I hope you learn it note for note
Like good little children
Don’t worry, be happy
Listen to what I say
In your life expect some trouble
But when you worry
You make it double
Don’t worry, be happy……
Don’t worry don’t do it, be happy
Put a smile on your face
Don’t bring everybody down like this
Don’t worry, it will soon past
Whatever it is
Don’t worry, be happy
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May 20th, 2008 at 2:31 pm
You shouldn’t worry too much. Try to do something fun and relaxing. Listening to music is one of the best ways. Don’t listen to rock, listen to something like Enya. Maybe playing some computer arcade games is good for you too.
Maybe try to talk to your significant other, tell him to read this post and he may provide you a better solution as he is the source of your worries.
Blogging is good too. Continuous blogging kills time and also able to gain knowledge.
melbie reply on May 20th, 2008 3:01 pm:
Yep, emailed him the link… not sure if he’ll read it .. such a busy guy he is LOL …
I like Enya, computer games? It’ll stress me out more for I’ll want to play till I won the game or get tired … hehehe. As for blogging, I cannot blog when I worry … so next time I’ll just try to listen to music … hehehe
Thanks for your tips though
May 20th, 2008 at 6:06 pm
“He’ll get annoyed with me too when I keep bugging him to ask of his whereabouts and when he’ll be back.”
Haha! I have this same problem
It’s kinda annoying really.. but I guess look at it positively, then it is all good. Just sometimes, you know people snapped 
All is good.. all is good..
melbie reply on May 20th, 2008 9:02 pm:
*sigh* As I said, I know it bugs him and I don’t want that … I’m not a control queen, just a worry freak… do you think it’s fun to worry all the time? People snaps, but I don’t want my significant other to snap at me … oyyy… it’s complicated!
May 20th, 2008 at 7:11 pm
Eee.. Didn’t know got this song eh..
Thanks for sharing
melbie reply on May 20th, 2008 9:03 pm:
It shows that we didn’t grow up in the same era right? LOL
Glad that you like the song
May 20th, 2008 at 9:05 pm
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melbie reply on May 20th, 2008 11:27 pm:
Thanks for the invitation, but I’m a very shy person hehehe…
May 20th, 2008 at 9:16 pm
U’re the same as my anak…worries over every little thing!!! I oso don’t know what to do…just try to pujuk2 and console her, telling her everything’s gonna be alright!!! Haiz!!!!
melbie reply on May 20th, 2008 11:28 pm:
Am I really? *phew* glad to know that I’m not the only one … I’m trying… trying not to worry so much anymore… really tiring … not healthy for me, nor for the relationship in this case hehehehe
May 21st, 2008 at 9:49 am
Oh Melbie, pray for his safety and let God take care of him. We all know you love your significant other very much, but there’s little thing we can do to protect them against harm (we are not Superman or WonderWoman aren’t we?).
I once read something from the book named Secret: The Law of Attraction. Instead of thinking the worst that could happen let’s think of something more beautiful. Do you know that our mind attracts whatever we think? If we think about the good ones we will get the good ones, but if we keep on thinking of the bad ones the bad ones will eventually come.
melbie reply on May 21st, 2008 10:49 am:
Awww… now I feel more stupid than ever LOL … yes I know there’s nothing I can do but it doesn’t stop me worrying either … I just want to know that he’s home safe & sound before I can relax … but trying very hard to change that attitude
Hence this cry for help…
Thank you very much for sharing that piece of wisdom you got from the book… maybe I should start reading all those self help books I used to love so much … hehe .. yes, start reading more Mel, start reading!
Thanks again, daniel…
May 21st, 2008 at 4:33 pm
alah…sya ingat sya saja gitu…ko pun …alalala…
gas sudah tutup pun, pigi check lagi balik. air sudah tutup pun, pigi check lagi balik. kereta sudah kunci pun, pigi click2 lagi balik. h/p sms sudah jwb pun, check lagi balik…takut x sampai sms atau x terjwb ka…mcm2 lagi…kannnnn…
that’s making 3 minute jadi 10 minutes check-up kalu rumah besar mcm tempat kamu kan…ehhehehe…takut lupa kunci…hhehehe
melbie reply on May 22nd, 2008 2:42 am:
Ya gitulah tu… paling nda suka kalau ada pakai seterika, mesti time off mau ingat suda off… mesti mau alert tu time.. kalau nda… nah!! Gerenti mau pusing balik p check bila suda half way kluar dari kampung pun.. hehehhee
May 21st, 2008 at 6:36 pm
As long as you are a homo sapien…then worrying is just part of the big things.
Just know where to put the limit.
Aunty sa pun like that yg mcm si wabbit described. It annoys us at times but we just can’t change her. It’s her habit to worry. Tapi bagus juga bah…at least, less risks.
Bah…pelan2 lah ko ‘mendeworrying’ urself. Perhaps, kalo ur partner is away somewhere…u shouldn’t stay alone. Get someone to accompany you to keep you busy. Blogging and reading might help but the power of mind is mostly too strong. So if you put worry in top spot, the rest of the things may not probably work.
But then like u said…easy said than done.
melbie reply on May 22nd, 2008 2:46 am:
Blogging while worrying is totally out of the question… tried and failed … so next, it’s gotta be the music blasting the ears so that I cannot think haha … mau try tu… it’s very tiring to worry … hehe but like you said, habit… old habit hard to break …
May 21st, 2008 at 11:26 pm
Oh I love this song!!! Reminds me of the animated movie “Flushed Away” - all the songs so cute!!!
Anyways, as for the worrying bit…I dunno what to say lah…haha…Just try not to worry so much? LOL.
melbie reply on May 22nd, 2008 2:56 am:
That’s what I’m trying to do, mar …. trying not to worry so much or else buat apa aku post entry ni?